Grief Wish List

Be There

Understanding the delicate nature of communication during grief, a more proactive approach is encouraged. Instead of simply saying, "I'm here if you want to talk," it's suggested to ask open-ended questions like "How are things today?" or "How has it been recently?" This helps alleviate the pressure on the grieving individual to initiate conversations.

Offer Practical Assistance

When grappling with grief, the common questions of "what can I do?" and "is there anything you need?" can feel daunting for both the griever and their supporters. The importance of offering practical assistance, such as providing frozen, healthy meals that can be enjoyed later or offering gift cards for grocery shopping or food delivery, is emphasized. If you are particularly close think about offering to mow their lawn or watch the kids. The important thing is that you think of it rather than have the griever come up with it.

Self Care

The experience of grief is likened to a brain injury, emphasizing the need for self-care and acknowledging the unpredictable twists and turns of the grief journey. Practical gestures, such as providing tea or coffee (if it is decaffeinated even better), candles and oils to support sleep, contribute to the overall well-being of the grieving person.

Flowers? Yes or No?

In terms of expressing condolences, thoughtful considerations are offered. While flowers are a common gesture, it is advised against overwhelming the griever with multiple bouquets. A more personal touch, like delivering locally bought flowers or opting for dried flowers or low-maintenance plants, is recommended. Think of other ways to share your condolences like a sympathy card or calling them up to see how they are doing.

Final Thoughts

Other supportive actions are touched upon, including offering trips to nature, attending the funeral, educating oneself about grief, and encouraging therapeutic activities. The importance of simply being there, embracing silence, and engaging in activities together is highlighted. In conclusion, this reflection serves as a guide for those supporting someone through grief, providing tangible and heartfelt suggestions to navigate this profound and challenging journey.